I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and asking him to imagine how his life would be different if he was financially successful. I was mentioning the typical things that most success books and programs have you imagine, new car, great home, being able to travel where ever you. He said, “Well, those don’t really excite me. What excites me is being able to take any class I wanted no matter how expensive.”
Contrary to what the media would have us think, success is not the same for everyone. For example, if I was CEO of GM, (which is pretty improbable) I would feel like a failure. It’s because it doesn’t have meaning to me. Now, being a best selling author, that would feel successful.
In the next post I will share an amazing exercise that, if you take the time to do it, will give you a real insight into what your definition of success is. In the mean time, I’m going to share a wonderful tip that I learned a number of years ago. Get a little notebook that can be your success journal. Document the little moments of the day when things worked or you felt successful. (You can also take five minutes at the end of the day also) One person I suggested this to went from years of impatience, high stress, and never feeling like anything he did was enough to feeling a sense of peace and happiness. Ultimately, is that what it’s all about? Oh, don’t read back what you wrote for at least a month. When you do, notice the patterns you begin to see in your posts. It will give you a lot of information about is really important to you. Enjoy!
These are his words:
“I wanted to pass on that I’ve been diligent about the ‘daily diary’ — writing down the little successes and the good things that happen in the moment.The experience has been truly transformational. It’s amazing how a small thing like this can make such a big difference. I find myself looking for the good so I can write it down in my diary, whereas before, I’d go from one problem to the next without taking time to ‘enjoy.’”